SISTERHOOD: PROTECTING OUR HEARTS

You guys may have noticed that I am an avid blog reader and sometimes when the mood feels right, I research different topics. This time I have come across this topic which doesn't seem to be important for single ladies out there but in one point of your life, it will. Love doesn't start when you and a guy are officially together, no, love starts way before and that's why in order not to be crushed when something that seems like a fairy tale finds its end, you have to be prepared with the right words and the right attitude. Ladies, just give it a shot and read this great article with short tipps, I found.

THE CONVERSATION WITH AMANDA DE CADENET

I have come across this interview series through my favourite and regular visited blogs and pretty much spent my evening watching these interviews. All I can say is that each and every person in this show is such an inspiration. It is a show where two women (mostly celebrities) talk about being a woman. They talk about their struggles, their careers and just how miraculous life can be. Although women still have to fight for certain rights or even fight for the female image, us girls/women have accomplished so much over the past decades. Over the past weeks I have really tried to understand what my role in life was and whether I am forseen for so much more. It is very easy for us girls to fall for role models that aren't meant to be ours. We tend to go for appreance and looks instead of using something that is not as fleeting as our brain. We tend to think that finding our Prince Charming is the only way to be happy. We tend to put other people before ourselves because it is in our nature to be very caring. However, it's ourselves that we shouldn't forget about. We also tend to be dependent on so many perishable things that we lose track of what really is important for a life time.

I really recommend you to watch this series. I for my part have already learnt a lot within these 45 minutes of watching the show. Enjoy!

Check the episodes on http://www.theconversation.tv/show/

=] <3 don't forget to smile.
Ezzy

I AM THAT GIRL: My Own Author By Alexis Jones

I've just stumbled upon this great article about staying true to who you are regardless what society expects from you. In this world it is hard to be who you are because we often fear rejection and judgments not only from other people but mostly from our loved ones. This article is trying to convince us, that we need to continue fighting for what we believe in and mostly staying who we really are. Enjoy! It definitely is worth a read!

Picture: tumblr.com

 It’s not just our body image that we struggle with in life. Whether we are too curvy, too thin, too tall, too short, too tan or too pale; it’s easy to recognize the narrow definition of beauty that makes us all feel chronically insecure. I had a conversation in the car with my best friend recently, and it dawned on me that these unoriginal molds, silent expectations and paradigm influencers go much deeper than us merely comparing ourselves to unrealistic, unattainable, airbrushed perfection.

In one little word, an entire world of limitation exists — should. All the things we think we “should” do serve as a form of internal incarceration. Although I’m not necessarily proud of this fact, I am a “people-pleasing perfectionist.” I want to be liked by everyone, even you as you read this blog. On top of this impossible and challenging mission, I want to do everything perfectly and anything that falls short of that insane expectation is fair game for the Simon Cowell critic in my brain who tries to convince me that I’m not good enough. Somewhere along my life’s journey, I was convinced that perfection and pleasing were noble and desirable pursuits. I have actually set myself up for misery, failure and unimaginable disappointment.

In the world of “should,” there is no room to be real, honest or vulnerable. In a world of “should,” we live by everyone else’s invisible rules. We are governed by expectations most of us created when we were kids from the kind of person we marry to the car we drive. What I’ve come to realize is that when we allow ourselves to be on autopilot, we hand over our pen to someone else and ask them to author our lives, taking a backseat to their rules and slip comfortably into their mold for our lives.
I certainly am not impervious to the pressures and expectations that influence my life, but at least I’m aware that they exist. My insatiable desire to be liked and to pursue perfection at all costs has and continues to produce an inauthentic projection of who I want people to think I am. The true definition of empowerment is the mere recognition of choice and that is where I now choose to live. Not in a world of “supposed to,” but in a world of questioning what I think, feel, want and need. Only in that space, am I granted permission to think for myself, to assign my own meaning, to date a guy who’s “not my type,” to be open to possibilities and pencil my own mind-blowing adventure story. 

I’ve been a rebel my whole life, never fitting in and always asking why. The poet E.E. Cummings perfectly articulated life’s greatest challenge when he wrote, “To be nobody but yourself in a world that’s doing its best to make you somebody else, is to fight the hardest battle you are ever going to fight. Never stop fighting.” My challenge for you, for me, for all us is to fight to make your own decisions in life, to create your own rules and write your own personal constitution, only ever looking for your own approval.
We are infinitely unique and when we stand confidently on our own two feet, we enter into a reservoir of unfathomable power, unconditional love, creativity, honesty and passion. Whatever you are seeking already exists within you; the answer, wisdom, eloquence and truth you desire are all inherently yours. So take a deep breath with pen in hand, and write your story.

Source: http://www.iamthatgirl.com/2012/02/27/my-own-author-by-alexis-jones/ by Alexis Jones

=] <3 don't forget to smile.
Ezzy